Dark_Bunbury
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Hey nulled, I know I haven't really talked about myself around here, but I'm in deep need of help. I just don't know what do to or how to help.
Basically, I'm in my senior year, and since I know most of the people around the school (I'm not that popular, but everyone happens to know me), there are a couple younger people I talk to. One of them (a girl) I started talking when she followed me on instagram and was traveling in russia and posted a pic on her story and I pointed some fact about it out, and we started texting a lot. She asked if it is possible for me to maybe send her pictures of old tests and maybe give my textbooks/workbooks so she could study for some tests that I have already passed and are waiting for her ahead.
Fast forward past the summer, in september, one day she randomly snapchatted me and told me that she wants to hang out during the break. (Since the lesson times and breaks are schedulated on the same time, we could easily hang around together). We went outside because it was still warm and just chatted about everything. Pretty much the entire first week of school we went and hanged out every single break we could just because she doesn't really speak to any other people other than couple of her female friends. One day she asked me how long my lessons are, and if I'll go home by car or by bus (I live in another city so I always have to take the bus or go to HS with a car). I told her that I have to stay over the lesson so I have to hang around the city before next bus arrives and she asked if she could hang around with me.
We went into the city center, and went to a local coffee shop, got ourself some salad and coffee. We spoke for about 2 hours there, spoke about literally everything. She is very very fun and I've actually barely met any girls that are that talkative. At one point I pointed out that she has a boyfriend and she told me that they have been together for 2 years and 4 months, but the last 4 weeks have been hell. She goes to sleep every night crying and he's always yelling and smashing doors etc. Basically I was suprised that she told me about this, but I figured she just has noone else to talk about it.
During the second week, we kept to our habits my hanging around during breaks. And I found out that her boyfriend found out about me, and basically yelled at her a lot and started packing his stuff and drove away past midnight. When he came back, he demanded to see her phone and told her to block me everywhere and stop talking to me. He also apparently was smoking hella lot (stopped smoking when they met), and just in general is very very jelous of me.
The girl has told me a couple times that she just doesn't see them together anymore, but she's afraid to do anything because he can apparently do a lot of unimaginable things and she doesn't want him to get hurt, as he has been to some sketchy shit (like streetfights etc, even though when they became a couple he became normal). He also always puts himself in the "victim" spot, like when she's tired he will start saying shit like "oh now you're tired, when you have time to spend with me" etc. Just makes me fucking sick. She goes to school, goes to gymnastics and does like 4 hours of workout 3 times per workdays and you can't give her a few hours off?
Right now all that is happening, is that every time she goes home, she gets yelled at, (maybe even beaten, I have no idea...), and demanded to give her phone to him just so he could read our messages. That's why she always tells me to use snapchat and delete past messages.
I just have no idea what to do here, the guy told her that he "fucking" hates me and wants to beat me up ( I mean, obviously if you get cucked you would beat someone up), but she just doesn't know how to escape from the abusive relationship.
I told the girl that I will stay with her the entire journey and all I can do is just "be there for you" and "try to put myself in your shoes", so I could give some advice, but this shit is way too messed up. I can tell that she's ready to move on and maybe even likes me more (reading her body language), but who knows.
Any tips what I should do to maybe help her, or give advice to her? I just want to beat the shit out of that abusive boyfriend, because she doesn't deserve to be controlled all the time, everyone deserves their own space and free time.
TLDR: A girl recently started talking to me, I found out her boyfriend is always controlling and keeps yelling and breaking her shit and she wants to come out of the relationship but is scared.
Edit: changed font color, seemed to dark to read.
Edited by vinto, 16 September 2019 - 08:01 PM.
Basically, I'm in my senior year, and since I know most of the people around the school (I'm not that popular, but everyone happens to know me), there are a couple younger people I talk to. One of them (a girl) I started talking when she followed me on instagram and was traveling in russia and posted a pic on her story and I pointed some fact about it out, and we started texting a lot. She asked if it is possible for me to maybe send her pictures of old tests and maybe give my textbooks/workbooks so she could study for some tests that I have already passed and are waiting for her ahead.
Fast forward past the summer, in september, one day she randomly snapchatted me and told me that she wants to hang out during the break. (Since the lesson times and breaks are schedulated on the same time, we could easily hang around together). We went outside because it was still warm and just chatted about everything. Pretty much the entire first week of school we went and hanged out every single break we could just because she doesn't really speak to any other people other than couple of her female friends. One day she asked me how long my lessons are, and if I'll go home by car or by bus (I live in another city so I always have to take the bus or go to HS with a car). I told her that I have to stay over the lesson so I have to hang around the city before next bus arrives and she asked if she could hang around with me.
We went into the city center, and went to a local coffee shop, got ourself some salad and coffee. We spoke for about 2 hours there, spoke about literally everything. She is very very fun and I've actually barely met any girls that are that talkative. At one point I pointed out that she has a boyfriend and she told me that they have been together for 2 years and 4 months, but the last 4 weeks have been hell. She goes to sleep every night crying and he's always yelling and smashing doors etc. Basically I was suprised that she told me about this, but I figured she just has noone else to talk about it.
During the second week, we kept to our habits my hanging around during breaks. And I found out that her boyfriend found out about me, and basically yelled at her a lot and started packing his stuff and drove away past midnight. When he came back, he demanded to see her phone and told her to block me everywhere and stop talking to me. He also apparently was smoking hella lot (stopped smoking when they met), and just in general is very very jelous of me.
The girl has told me a couple times that she just doesn't see them together anymore, but she's afraid to do anything because he can apparently do a lot of unimaginable things and she doesn't want him to get hurt, as he has been to some sketchy shit (like streetfights etc, even though when they became a couple he became normal). He also always puts himself in the "victim" spot, like when she's tired he will start saying shit like "oh now you're tired, when you have time to spend with me" etc. Just makes me fucking sick. She goes to school, goes to gymnastics and does like 4 hours of workout 3 times per workdays and you can't give her a few hours off?
Right now all that is happening, is that every time she goes home, she gets yelled at, (maybe even beaten, I have no idea...), and demanded to give her phone to him just so he could read our messages. That's why she always tells me to use snapchat and delete past messages.
I just have no idea what to do here, the guy told her that he "fucking" hates me and wants to beat me up ( I mean, obviously if you get cucked you would beat someone up), but she just doesn't know how to escape from the abusive relationship.
I told the girl that I will stay with her the entire journey and all I can do is just "be there for you" and "try to put myself in your shoes", so I could give some advice, but this shit is way too messed up. I can tell that she's ready to move on and maybe even likes me more (reading her body language), but who knows.
Any tips what I should do to maybe help her, or give advice to her? I just want to beat the shit out of that abusive boyfriend, because she doesn't deserve to be controlled all the time, everyone deserves their own space and free time.
TLDR: A girl recently started talking to me, I found out her boyfriend is always controlling and keeps yelling and breaking her shit and she wants to come out of the relationship but is scared.
Edit: changed font color, seemed to dark to read.
Edited by vinto, 16 September 2019 - 08:01 PM.