How not to worry about your future

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-How do we do that?
How to be a little easier on life, and not become neurotic by the age of 20?

• ?Don't take too much on yourself

Make the effort you can, don't worry about something that doesn't have a concrete form, there are no guarantees in life, somehow many circumstances can happen where you and your principles/efforts won't play a role.
Get ahold of yourself
Try to control your imaginative and emotional nature! Let me give you a simple example from my personal life: Once I was in therapy, I was talking to a doctor about depressive moods related to a certain trigger within the family (my grandmother is disabled, it's hard to be around her because she cries, it hurts, and so on) and I can't help, I was very much worried about this moment, experienced all kinds of severe emotional swings, when in turn the grandmother herself was extremely dignified, and never let her emotions get the best of her even in the most difficult moments. In the end, the doctor came to the conclusion that the depression is just me, I thought too much about other people's problems, and too much into it, when I should just accept the inevitable, the actual present in which I stay, do not dwell on it, and just live on. While doing everything I can to just make her life easier and give her a smile. In the same way in life, do not get buried in problems (especially in other people's) Keep cool if possible, think logically, sometimes emotions and feelings are better to turn off. For if you can't somehow help someone, change something, then it's just there, go on with a cool head

• Be conscientious

Yes, it's silly to write this on a forum where guys are looking for vorkers, create teams, etc. But nevertheless, you don't get involved in murky topics that can get you in trouble/questioning/bad reputation in the future, you live in peace. If the only nerve-racking trigger in your life is doing all sorts of black things that keep you awake and prevent you from making a plan for the future, then maybe it's time to think about whether you need it in principle?

• Be specific about what you're doing

If you are afraid of the future for various reasons like, I'm afraid that I won't be realized by 35, or I'm afraid that I won't be able to protect my family, that when my friends will be driving an Audi, I will still be driving a decrepit Zhiguli down the avenue, then again, turn off your emotions, give yourself at least an imaginary slap, get yourself together. If you are afraid of something, you most likely just do not understand anything. For often our fear realizes itself in full before something unknown to us before. Especially young people are inherent, for example, irrational fear - when we are afraid of something that we can not even define in essence. If you are afraid of not being realized, then take apart the problem itself.
Find its specific segments, study them, if it's studying, create a plan for your studies for at least a couple months, get it? Increase the term and time of your studies. Try to be more responsible to yourself. Afraid of getting punched in the face late at night? Learn how you can stand up to all kinds of freaks, what self-defense is, what martial arts is, etc. Remember one thing, people rarely want to solve your problem, often we are alone in this world, and our society likes and mostly respects specific people who see the problem, set tasks, and are not lazy to fulfill them. This is not a course for successful success, it's just a fact

• Love yourself, and be honest to yourself and to people

Yes, such a simple truth, love yourself, accept yourself, seek harmony where your inner world is a blooming garden. Support yourself, take care of yourself, take care of yourself as much as others, be honest with yourself, accept your faults, and praise yourself for a good job, believe me it will be easier for you to accept even the passing years if you lived them in harmony with yourself and in love. Don't beat yourself up for misdeeds you had nothing to do with, and remember that you can climb out of many shit pits, don't be afraid to lose time, if this time gave you rays of light on your way, be happy friend!